I live in London and have done all my life. I have travelled, I have a degree, and, like most people from my generation, I went straight into work from university.
I'm a proud gay man, I came out when I was 16, so just over fifteen years ago.
I am a volunteer bereavement support worker.
I am proud of what I have achieved so far in my life. But that has not always been the case.
For many years, I struggled with my identity, my personality, my self-belief, my self-worth and my self-talk. I struggled with my sexuality, what I looked like, I cared about other people’s perceptions and opinions of me. I chipped away at my own confidence, not realising that I was doing it. Until, I went through a huge life lesson – my sister passed away.
Eight years later, I’m now on a mission - to help those who struggle with those same insecurities & those same limiting beliefs, feel empowered to take control of their lives and see the greatness they already hold.
I became a transformational coach because I believe in the power that each individual has, but sometimes this power needs a bit of coaching out of us.
I came up with a recipe to the perfect version of you. Some of the ingredients of this recipe are time, space and a kind ear – not always readily available when you need them. Now I’m not a very good chef at all, but what I do know is how to help you create the perfect version of you!
I have always known that I wanted to work with the LGBT+ community. In a world where you can be whoever you want to be, we still feel ourselves extremely limited. In a survey carried out by LinkedIn in 2019 (see link below) it showed that 26% of LGBT+ people are currently not out in the workplace, and 28% of those did not feel comfortable enough to come out because of fear of judgement from their co-workers.
In my experience, and conversations that I have had with gay men, many feel that as soon as they come out they have to fit into a certain group to belong. These groups are based on roles, looks and stereotypes that have been created by social and media influences. Bisexual people are often told that they are greedy, unable to make up their mind. Lesbians are regularly vilified, and objectified by some straight men and again assumed to be something they may not be. Trans people are still fighting for the same human rights that we all currently have.
So what is it to be just a gay man? A lesbian woman? A trans person? Nothing special. We are no different from a straight man, a straight woman - regardless of how we identify within our sexuality/gender.
But to be comfortable within our own skin. To be who we truly are whether that be in the workplace, in our personal life, or simply on the bus - that is the goal for so many.
I help you to get to that level. I help you to be your own person without the comparisons and pressures to identify in a specific way.
To not be scared of coming out and to be confident with who you are.